Leaders lead—but they also follow! We have examined how serving leaders follow those in authority over them and how they follow those ahead of them. In this issue, we’ll continue to look at Paul’s instructions to the church in Corinth and reflect on how leaders follow those around them, their peers.   

Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1, NIV).

We can easily overlook the fact that when Paul says “follow my example” he was not writing to an individual but to the entire church. He expected the Corinthians to be followers as a group, not as individuals. Paul assumed they would learn from each other and help each other on this journey. Serving leaders reflect on what it means to lead not in isolation but with others who are on the same journey.  Just as serving leaders follow those who are over them and ahead of them, they also humbly learn to follow those around them. 

Serving leaders follow those around them by noticing.   

As Paul encouraged this group to follow his leadership, he expected them to look around at the others in the group and notice what they were doing. A serving leader can also learn by simply noticing what others around them are doing. In some cases, a leader will be able to see positive examples from which to learn. In the Corinthian church, there were lots of examples of people not doing well! All peers offer learning opportunities to leaders who simply notice.

Some leaders are so focused on what they are doing that they don’t notice what others are doing. But serving leaders look around. They observe their peers and learn from them. Where they see their peers making mistakes, they make corrections in their own leadership to avoid the same mistakes. Where they notice success, they are secure enough to affirm that success and reflect on what they can learn from it. They follow their peers by noticing.  

Serving leaders follow those around them by adapting.   

Some leaders see success in another place and rush to imitate what is being done with no discernment of how it will work in the context of their own gifting, vision, and mission. But as serving leaders notice what their peers are doing that is working well, they reflect on what they can learn and apply to their own leadership context. They do not rush to imitate exactly what another person is doing but ask themselves how the success of their peers could best be adapted to their own situation. They may seek counsel from someone ahead of them to help discern what adaptations would be most helpful.  They follow their peers by adapting.

Serving leaders follow those around them by collaborating.

As Paul encouraged the group at Corinth to follow him, he taught them a lot about the unique gifts each person brought to the team. He was encouraging interdependence among them. Serving leaders learn to collaborate with their peers. They acknowledge that they do not have strengths in every area and that there is someone else on the team who can complement their weaknesses.

Some leaders see everyone around them as a potential threat, a competitor. But serving leaders see people around them as opportunities to become stronger. They follow their peers by collaborating.

Following peers requires much thought and discernment and serving leaders should not follow them alone but as they follow those over them and ahead of them. Following only peers is short-sighted; not following them is equally blind! Serving leaders see those who are around them as a valuable gift and gladly follow.

For further reflection and discussion:

• How has my leadership been shaped, or not shaped, by those around me? How has this helped or hindered my own growth as a leader?
• Who do I consider my peers in leadership? (List at least 5 other leaders.) Have I seen this group as competitors or people that I can learn from? In what ways can I learn from their lives? What could I adopt from their leadership that would be effective in my own context?   
• What are specific ways that I could collaborate with my peers? What one step will I take this week to begin this process?
• Read the account of Paul’s interaction with the church leaders in Acts 15. Reflect on how Paul related to them as they grappled with a very contentious issue. Are there ways in which he showed respect for them as authorities in the church? Are there ways he acknowledged that the group of leaders at Jerusalem were ahead of him? In what ways might he have considered this as a group of his peers? What do you learn from his example that can be applied in your own leadership?  

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll examine how leaders follow those under them.

  In the last issue, we examined how serving leaders follow those in authority over them as Paul followed Christ. In this issue, we’ll focus on how leaders follow those ahead of them. Serving leaders today have the privilege not only of following those in authority over them, but also following other leaders who are ahead of them on the journey. Again, Paul provides the challenge in his short statement to the church in Corinth:

Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1, NIV).

As a pioneer and apostle, Paul did not have many contemporaries who were ahead of him in the work he was doing. But he offered himself as an example to the Corinthians of someone they could follow because he was ahead of them on the leadership journey. In doing so he reminds all serving leaders to look for people that are ahead of them and take deliberate steps to follow them. How can serving leaders follow those ahead of them?

Serving leaders follow those ahead of them by observing.  

Paul tells these leaders to follow “my example.” Paul first needed to live a life worth imitating which is a challenge to all serving leaders! Then he invites them to observe his life and to imitate him. For them to do this they needed to stop and reflect on how Paul lived his life, how he led and what his habits were. He recognized that they could learn a lot from his own life if they were only willing to follow.

Some leaders focus on their own journey and see those ahead of them as competitors. But serving leaders realize that those who have gone ahead of them have a wealth of experience and wisdom so they carefully observe their leadership. They are eager to read their stories, listen to their podcasts or simply to observe what they do in order to learn.  

Serving leaders follow those ahead of them by asking.  

Another way leaders can learn from those ahead of them is by asking great questions. In Paul’s situation, he is writing to them and their questions would need to come in a written response. But if he was in person, he would certainly have invited them to ask questions.

Some leaders believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness. They are afraid to acknowledge the things they do not know about leadership. But serving leaders readily acknowledge they don’t have all the answers. They are eager to ask those who are ahead of them for counsel and advice. They reflect on the challenges they face and develop questions they can ask those ahead of them that would most help them in their own journey.

Serving leaders follow those ahead of them by imitating.  

As Paul invites these leaders to “follow my example” he is expecting that they will do more than observe and ask good questions. He expects them to put into practice what they see him doing. Of course, he does not expect them to become just like him in terms of their unique personalities, giftings, and callings. But he does call them to ask questions and then carefully and prayerfully apply in their own context what they see in him.  

Some leaders view any form of imitation as a sign of their own defeat. But serving leaders humbly acknowledge that they can grow by imitating those who are ahead of them in leadership. They maintain their own unique calling, position and personality, but find ways to move ahead more quickly by imitating those who are ahead of them.   

Serving leaders see those who are ahead of them as a valuable resource and gladly follow!

For further reflection and discussion:

• In my realm of leadership who are 3 leaders who are ahead of me? In what ways have I already learned from their example? How can I be more deliberate about following them in a healthy way?   
• What are five questions that I could ask of one of the leaders I listed above? (Take some time to reflect on what leadership issues you most need help with and what questions would help you gain insight from a leader that is ahead of you.)
• How and when will I ask the questions above? (Consider your proximity to that leader. Are you able to ask for a 1 hour meeting with them? Can you send an email or letter with your questions or schedule a call?)
• How can I best imitate those ahead of me in my current role? What dangers must I guard against as I follow their lead?

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll examine how leaders follow those around them.

In the previous series we looked at what Paul did as a serving leader to develop his leadership pipeline. Our primary focus was on what Paul did to help Timothy grow in leadership. In this series we’ll flip the focus to Timothy and look at what he did that helped develop his leadership capacity. Although we don’t have any recorded words of Timothy, his life is a model for us in learning how we can grow and develop our own capacity and how we can encourage the heart and actions of Timothy in those we lead. Consider Paul’s words to him about learning:

¹⁴ But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, ¹⁵ and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus (2 Timothy 3:14–15, NIV).

At the heart of Timothy’s leadership journey was his lifelong passion to learn and grow.  His life is an example to all serving leaders.

Timothy acknowledged the priority of learning.

Timothy was likely only a year or two old in his new faith when Paul requested him to join the team. He was young and inexperienced, and he realized that he had a lot to learn. He would spend the next season of life with Paul who was already an effective leader. But Timothy recognized that Paul’s training would only be effective if he was a willing learner.  

Some leaders are content to learn enough to get the job done, but they don’t have a hunger to learn more. They see learning as only a tool to accomplish a task or achieve a specific goal. But serving leaders see the priority of learning and begin a life-long pursuit of growth so that they can influence and serve more people. They recognize that their growth will also impact the growth of those around them.  And serving leaders know that unless they grow and develop themselves, they cannot effectively grow and develop others.

Timothy accepted the process of learning.

Timothy accepted the reality that his learning would be a process. It began by choosing the right people to learn from. “…because you know those from whom you learned it.”  Timothy watched Paul’s life carefully, but he also learned much from his mother and grandmother. (See 2 Timothy 1:5). Timothy recognized that the learning process would be continuous. “…continue in what you have learned…” Timothy was now a seasoned leader on his own. But he wanted to continue growing. He realized that this would be a lifelong process.

Some leaders try to take shortcuts in the learning process and only pursue more growth when they face an obstacle they can’t overcome. But serving leaders choose continued growth knowing that the price they pay is worth the effort.

Timothy acquired the product of learning.

As Paul observed Timothy’s life at this stage, he recognized that Timothy had acquired a deep conviction from his learning.  “…you…have become convinced…”  Timothy began his journey uncertain and inexperienced, but over time, as he learned and grew, he developed confidence. This confidence was not arrogance, but a settled conviction that he was ready and able to lead others. This confidence grew out of the continuous learning journey that he had pursued all his life.

Some leaders never acquire confidence in their gifting, calling and capacity and are unable to genuinely serve others. Without confidence they assert power and use their position for themselves. But serving leaders acquire confidence through a lifetime of learning and release power and authority to those they serve.

For further reflection and discussion:

• How hungry am I to grow as a leader? Is my hunger increasing or diminishing over time? How does this impact my leadership capacity?
• How can I develop a greater hunger to learn in my own life? What daily or weekly disciplines do I have that keep me growing? Who am I intentionally looking at as a person that helps me grow?
• Reflect on those you lead. What can I do to encourage them to develop a hunger for learning?  Am I doing my part to make learning accessible and expected for them?      
• In addition to the verses we used in this issue, consider the following verses from Timothy’s life: 1 Timothy 4:12, 15–16; 1 Timothy 6:20-21; and 2 Timothy 1:6, 13-14. What additional insights do you find from these verses about how Timothy was hungry to learn and grow?          
• In this series we are looking at the life of Timothy. It’s a great time to read through the two books in the Bible with his name, written to him by Paul. As you read, reflect on what Timothy did to grow as a leader and how his actions apply to your own growth. 

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler In the next issue, we’ll look at how Timothy paid the price of leadership.

Barnabas was a great leader and we have reflected on many great things from his life. But he was not perfect! Two incidents are recorded for us that reveal his imperfections.

³⁶ Some time later Paul said to Barnabas, “Let us go back and visit the believers in all the towns where we preached the word of the Lord and see how they are doing.” ³⁷ Barnabas wanted to take John, also called Mark, with them, ³⁸ but Paul did not think it wise to take him, because he had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not continued with them in the work. ³⁹ They had such a sharp disagreement that they parted company. Barnabas took Mark and sailed for Cyprus, ⁴⁰ but Paul chose Silas and left, commended by the believers to the grace of the Lord. ⁴¹ He went through Syria and Cilicia, strengthening the churches (Acts 15:36-41, NIV).

After serving together as a powerful team for years, Paul and Barnabas could not agree on whether to take Mark on the next journey! This unresolved conflict is ironically the last we hear about Barnabas in the book of Acts!

Perhaps even before this well-known disagreement, there was another contentious issue about circumcision in Antioch. Peter acted hypocritically and was rebuked publicly by Paul. In his writing about the incident, Paul also reported:  

The other Jews joined him [Peter] in his hypocrisy, so that by their hypocrisy even Barnabas was led astray (Galatians 2:13).

In this situation Barnabas and Peter were clearly in the wrong (see note*). But the failures of Barnabas serve as reminders to leaders that even in our failures, we can serve others.

The failure of Barnabas serves by showing that failure is normal.

Paul thought so highly of Barnabas that he said “even Barnabas was led astray.” He implies that Barnabas was the last person he expected to make this mistake! But Barnabas did fail and shows all leaders that failure is to be expected. Certainly, we don’t intend to or plan to fail, but we should anticipate it. Some leaders see failure as a sign of incompetence, so they feel obliged to cover up, deny or ignore failure. But serving leaders accept their humanity and the reality that all leaders fail. They give grace to themselves and ask for grace from others when they fail. In doing so, they serve those they lead by showing that failure is normal.

The failure of Barnabas serves by showing that failure is not the end.

The recorded story of Barnabas ends with the disagreement between him and Paul but his work did not end there. Barnabas took Mark with him on a missionary journey and while we don’t know the results, we can certainly expect that the existing churches were strengthened and other churches planted through their work. Some leaders see failure as the end of their work but serving leaders understand that failure is not final. They learn to continue the journey after each failure and serve by showing that failure is not the end.  

The failure of Barnabas serves by showing that failure can lead to growth.

Both Barnabas and Paul grew through their disagreement. Paul later requested Mark to help him (see 2 Timothy 4:11). Barnabas grew as a team leader while traveling with Mark. God used their disagreement to send out two teams instead of one and brought growth to the churches. On the issue of circumcision both Barnabas and Peter were able to see their mistakes and make corrections. Some leaders see failure as the end of growth but serving leaders see failures as opportunities for growth. They ask what went wrong and what can be learned. They adjust, change, and adapt as needed and then carry on the mission! They serve their teams by growing through failure.

For further reflection and discussion:

• How does the failure of Barnabas challenge me as a leader? What action can I take this week to be more like him as I respond to my own failures?
• Do I see failure as normal for my own leadership? If so, how do I communicate this to others? If not, how does this impact the way I see and respond to the failures of others?
• Have I allowed a past failure to stop me from doing what I should be doing? If so, what steps do I need to take to get back on the right path?
• In what ways have my failures brought growth to my life and leadership? Who needs to hear about what I have learned and when will I share my story with them?               

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll look at how Barnabas served with character.

*Note. Scholars debate about whether Peter’s visit to Antioch was prior to or after the  Jerusalem Council where the matter of circumcision was resolved by the church leaders. (See Acts 15) If the visit was afterwards, the failure of Peter and Barnabas was certainly more grievous. But whatever the timeline they both failed to live out the gospel message.

God’s world was beautiful and perfect! It was filled with all the ingredients that would allow flourishing to continue for generations. Yet, while God had created a perfect and flourishing world, He was not caught off guard by the failure of Adam and Eve! As He cursed the serpent, He revealed His plan for ultimate victory, thousands of years before it would happen.  

 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel” (Genesis 3:15, NIV).  

Then, after cursing the serpent and the ground, God continues to act in response to Adam and Eve’s disobedience. Again, God demonstrates that He was not surprised by their actions.

The Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them (Genesis 3:21).

God graciously provided leather clothing for Adam and Eve; much more durable than the simple leaves they had used to cover themselves. He put new boundaries in place and provided new direction for Adam to work the ground outside the beautiful garden environment.

Anticipating failure accelerates flourishing by acknowledging the intent.

While God did not intend for the first couple to fail, he anticipated it and was prepared for what happened. He could not spare them from the consequences of their sin, but He would provide next steps for them to take.  His intent after their failure was for them to live as fully as possible in a flourishing world. He was ready to help them move past their failure.

In our broken world, we can certainly anticipate failure on a regular basis! Anticipating failure does not mean looking for it in every action or assignment, but it does mean thinking ahead to reflect on what steps may be needed when failure occurs. Serving leaders learn that it is better to be prepared for failure than surprised by it!

 Anticipating failure accelerates flourishing by anticipating the impact.

Since the first failure of Adam and Eve, we have had plenty of opportunities to learn from failures! But we are often surprised when we hear stories of leaders who have been caught in a scandal and caught off guard when something doesn’t go as planned.

Many respond to failure with fear and shame. They fear the consequences, the punishment, and the shame of their failure so they cover up failure, deny it or run from it.

Others respond by making failure as their identity. Instead of saying, “I failed” they accept the identity, “I am a failure.” This response provides no productive way forward.

 But serving leaders learn to anticipate failure and prepare well for it. As they do, their teams can flourish. The fear of failure will be replaced by a willingness to anticipate the reality of failure and use it as a part of the learning journey. Serving leaders remind their team that even when they fail, failure is not their identity! Serving leaders anticipate that failure will bring growth to their team.

Anticipating failure accelerates flourishing by accepting the implications.

Serving leaders learn from Adam and Eve to anticipate failure, first in themselves but also in those they lead. They don’t dwell on failure and don’t encourage it. But they anticipate it and lead their teams to a healthy expectation that there will be failures on the journey. They teach their teams to fail well, not being blindsided by failure and not rejoicing in it but acknowledging it. They lean into failure, design plans to address it and learn from it! By talking about failure and removing the stigma on their team, they accelerate flourishing even in a broken world. Serving leaders cannot recreate the garden of Eden, but as they anticipate failure, they do create a flourishing world in which individuals and teams learn to thrive through failure.

Serving leaders continually cultivate into their leadership all the ingredients needed for a flourishing world. And the result can be seen in the people around them who are flourishing.

For further reflection and discussion:

How has thinking about failure been distorted in your context? Reflect specifically about the thinking in this area in your culture, your family, and in the organization you lead. What impact has this thinking had on you as a leader? In what ways do you need to adjust your thinking to align with God’s intent?

Reflect on what the impact would be if everyone in your organization would fully grasp and live out what it means to anticipate failure. Write at least three reflections.

What action steps will you take as a leader to anticipate failure in your home, organization or community? Choose which of these areas you will focus on and then list 2 or 3 specific steps you will take and dates for when you will take the actions.

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll start a new series!

A significant part of God’s flourishing world was the marvelous and diverse animal kingdom. God quickly gives Adam an assignment in relation to the animal world.

¹⁹ Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. ²⁰ So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals (Genesis 2:19-20, NIV).

The assignment God gave to Adam is profound in so many regards. It sets him apart from the animal world and prepares the stage for God to create a companion suitable for him. It demonstrates God’s expectation that Adam was not a bystander; he was to rule over the creation. This assignment also reveals that God expected Adam to grow and develop. There was work to do and God expected Adam to learn and grow. Scholars and scientists debate over the actual number of animals that Adam needed to name and it’s not likely that he had to name all of the currently known 1.2 million species of animals. Nevertheless, the task was not an assignment for a few minutes or a couple of hours! Serving leaders observe that the expectation of growth is an essential ingredient for a flourishing world.  

Expecting growth accelerates flourishing by acknowledging the intent.

God brings the animals to Adam and expected Adam to name them. God had created Adam with the capacity to name the animals but now Adam had to grow into this potential and come up with names! God could have given the names to Adam and asked him to memorize them but He wanted Adam to grow. Growth is baked into our DNA and is a natural expectation. We enjoy the clumsy efforts of infants as they learn to walk but we expect them to grow and mature. We anticipate the advancement of knowledge and maturity that comes as children progress through their formal education. And this design for growth is intended to continue our entire lives. Serving leaders acknowledge God’s intent for human growth.  

 Expecting growth accelerates flourishing by anticipating the impact.

God must have smiled as He watched Adam thinking and then speaking out a name! And He imagined a world filled with men and women each stretching and growing, learning to master their domain. But sadly, many people today simply show up at work for a paycheck, not expecting to change or grow. They join churches expecting only to attend meetings and be inspired. Serving leaders look at those they serve and not only see who they are now, but see what they could become. They anticipate the growth of the entry level worker to become a manager. They expect the newest member to grow into a future leader. They dream of their organization being filled with people who are fully alive, learning and growing in their capacity to shape their world.

Expecting growth accelerates flourishing by accepting the implications.

Serving leaders also realize that God has placed them in a position of leadership to accelerate the process of growth. They first make sure that they are growing themselves, continually seeking to improve and learn. Then they observe that God deliberately gave Adam an assignment to help him grow. Serving leaders take responsibility to serve those they lead by giving challenging assignments that will stretch the capacity of their followers. They encourage, mentor, coach and guide others to reach their full potential. And, like God must have done, they watch with a satisfied smile on their face as they observe others growing and flourishing around them.

For further reflection and discussion:

How has the intent of expecting growth been distorted in your context? Reflect specifically about the thinking in this area in your culture, your family, and in the organization where you lead. What impact has this thinking had on you as a leader? In what ways do you need to adjust your thinking to align with God’s intent? In what ways are you growing yourself as a leader?

Reflect on what the impact would be if everyone in your organization would fully grasp and live out what it means to expect growth. Write at least three reflections.

What action steps will you take as a leader to expect growth in your home, organization or community? Choose which of these areas you will focus on and then list 2 or 3 specific steps you will take and dates for when you will take the actions.

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll look at another ingredient of a flourishing world: Accountability is Natural.

Leaders lead! They influence others as they think, dream and plan. But they also follow and are influenced by others. They are influenced by the books they read, the conversations they have, the mentors they choose, the seminars they attend, and the podcasts to which they listen. Serving leaders consider carefully who they are following. They reflect on the wisdom found in these verses:

Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ. (1 Corinthians 11:1, NIV).

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. (Proverbs 13:20, NIV)

It matters who leaders follow! Serving leaders ask themselves the question, “Who am I following?” to ensure that they are in a healthy position to ask others to follow them.

Serving leaders ask, “Who am I following?” to ensure continued humility.

Paul calls others to follow him “as I follow…Christ.” He is able to call others to follow him because he is also a good follower. He demonstrates that followership comes before leadership. Leaders who assume that they are not following anyone may say, “I’m a self-made man” or a similar phrase. They talk about those who follow them as a measure of their leadership significance. These leaders are arrogant and foolish! Serving leaders lead, but they also acknowledge that they follow. They humbly acknowledge that many of their thoughts, ideas and behaviors are borrowed from others. They recognize that they even if they launch a new organization or business, they are building on the shoulders of others who have gone before them and are learning from those around them. They understand that if they don’t learn to follow well, they cannot call others to follow well. Serving leaders ask themselves who they are following to ensure that they remain teachable and humble. They are more focused on who they follow than who follows them.

Serving leaders ask, “Who am I following?” to ensure continued growth.

Serving leaders are passionate about growth and personal development. They read books, listen to podcasts, find mentors, and attend seminars.  They understand that their growth impacts the growth of those who follow them. They identify areas in which they need to grow and seek out people they can follow that will help them in that area. But serving leaders are also concerned that they are growing in the right direction. Proverbs highlights that those who we associate with will impact who we become. “Walk with the wise and become wise.” Serving leaders seek out leaders above them who not only demonstrate competence in the areas in which they want to grow but demonstrate the character they wish to attain as well. They want to follow those who are wise not just those who are viewed as successful. Serving leaders shape their growth by choosing who they follow. 

Serving leaders ask, “Who am I following?” to ensure continued impact.

Paul boldly calls others, “Follow my example as I follow…” He recognizes that when he follows well, he will impact the lives of others well. When he humbly acknowledges that he is also a follower, he has the courage to call others to follow. Serving leaders understand that they cannot call others to follow well until they follow well. They want to have an impact and change the lives of others, so they ask themselves who they are following before they call others to follow.

For further reflection and discussion:

• Who are currently the most influential persons that impact the way I think, behave, and lead? Have I selected these persons deliberately or did this just happen without thought? How satisfied am I with my current list of who I follow? What changes do I need to make?
• In what ways, if any, does my leadership reflect to others that I am not a “self-made” leader? Do I openly acknowledge to others those who influence my life? Do I quickly give credit for ideas I gain from reading, attending a seminar, etc.?
• In what areas do I most need to grow? Who are persons that I could learn from in this area? Is their life and character exemplary to me? What step(s) will I take to follow them?    
• Do I ask others to follow me before I ask myself who I follow? How does that impact my leadership? Do I need to make any changes after my reflection on this issue?         

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll look at a question serving leaders ask others: “Who are you following?”

Serving leaders take time to think, but they also reflect on how Paul’s instructions apply to those who follow.

⁸ Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Philippians 4:8, NIV).

Serving leaders acknowledge their own responsibility to think well and then turn their attention to those who follow. They ask them, “What are you thinking?” for several reasons.

Serving leaders ask, “What are you thinking?” to encourage thinking.  

Some leaders expect that they are the only ones who think; followers simply do what they are told. But serving leaders are not satisfied with followers who do what they are told without thinking. They want to develop the thinking capacity of those they lead. Their goal is not to develop many followers, but to raise up many leaders who think! Serving leaders encourage those who follow to think. They inquire about what they are thinking to make sure they are thinking! It’s empowering for a follower to hear their leader ask them what they are thinking. The question encourages more thinking. More thinkers in any organization is a win for all!

Serving leaders ask, “What are you thinking?” to expose thinking.

Serving leaders want to know what those who follow are thinking. And as they hear the responses, they learn from them and they learn about them. The ideas from a follower can give new perspective to a leader who often views a situation from a very different vantage point. A serving leader may have good intentions, but not understand how their actions impact those on the front lines of implementation. Learning what a follower thinks can also help a serving leader understand what next steps of growth and development are needed for that person. Most people don’t freely share their thoughts unless they know the leader sincerely wants to know what they think. Serving leaders make it clear that they want to know what others are thinking. They listen carefully to those who follow and reflect on the significance of what they are thinking.

Serving leaders ask, “What are you thinking?” to expand thinking.

Serving leaders are not threatened by others who think! Instead, they are intentionally seeking to develop the thinking capacity of others. They ask followers, “What are you thinking?” to help them grow. They deliberately pull developing leaders into the room with others leaders who are thinking together. Followers learn to think as they observe others grappling with leadership issues. They hear leaders discussing issues they have not yet considered. As they listen their thinking capacity expands.  This is a win for the serving leader and the one who follows, both grow when the right questions are asked!

Take a moment today to ask someone who follows your leadership, “What are you thinking?” Then listen well and grow in your capacity to serve them well.

For further reflection and discussion:

• How do I encourage thinking in those I lead? Have I been deliberate in asking them what they are thinking? How has this impacted my leadership?
• How well do I know what those I lead are thinking? Do I regularly invite them to share their thoughts with me? Have I reflected on what next steps are to help them develop greater thinking capacity?
• Do I have a plan to bring developing leaders into the room where leaders are thinking and wrestling with leadership challenges? Who could I involve in this process and when will I do it?             

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll look at a question serving leaders ask themselves: Who am I following?

Serving leaders have a passion, not only for their own personal growth, but they want to see those they lead also growing. They are in the growing people business! So, they attend to their own growth and then quickly turn their attention to the growth of those they lead. They have a vision from God to impact their world and they know that they cannot do this alone. They call a team to help them, and the team also needs to be growing if they are to scale the mountain. They have the same perspective towards the growth of those they lead as the writer of Hebrews.

¹² In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! ¹³ Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. ¹⁴ But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil (Hebrews 5:11-14, NIV).

Serving leaders desire to see those the lead flourishing and growing into their full potential. So, they often ask their followers, “How are you growing?”

Serving leaders ask “How are you growing?“ to encourage change.   

The writer clearly expects growth and progress. An infant is expected to drink milk, but a mature person should be eating meat. Serving leaders expect growth from those they lead and this requires change. Serving leaders are not content with followers that simply continue to do their work at the same level. They desire growth and ask their followers how they are growing to assess the level of change. Simply asking the question helps the follower to understand that growth is encouraged and expected. By asking “How are you growing?” serving leaders encourage their followers to rise and develop the potential that is yet undeveloped.

Serving leaders ask “How are you growing?“ to encourage consistency.

The question of growth is not a one-time question but one that serving leaders use often. The writer says that one of the characteristics of the mature is that they “by constant use have trained themselves…”  A step of growth produces change, but consistent growth is the key to transformation. Serving leaders recognize that many people in a new role, grow quickly as they learn the task, but then plateau when the reach a certain level of capacity. The question, “How are you growing?” encourages the follower to keep developing their strengths and capacity.

Serving leaders ask “How are you growing?“ to encourage continuity.

The writer challenges the readers, “by this time you ought to be teachers…” The expectation is that with growth and maturity there will be a passing on of what is learned to the next generation. Serving leaders take a long view and desire not only the growth of the individual they are leading, but the growth of those who will follow. So, they ask their followers, “How are you growing?” to remind them that they are not only growing for themselves but for those who will follow. They may shape the question even more directly, “Who are you training to take over your role?” Serving leaders ask their followers how they are growing so that they will be encouraged to pass on to others what they are learning.

For further reflection and discussion:

• Do I have a high expectation of growth and change from everyone I lead? How do I communicate that expectation to them? What do I do when someone is not interested in growing?
• Are there persons on my team that have stopped growing? How can I ask them a question that will rekindle their desire to grow?
• How do my followers pass on to others what they are learning? Have I built that expectation into our entire team? Can I see evidence of several generations of training happening in my organization? (An example of several generations would be that those first trained have trained others who are now training others.) If not, what do I need to change?                  

Until next time,

yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll look at/examine a question serving leaders ask themselves, “What should I stop doing?”  

Serving leaders are passionate about growth since they understand that their growth unlocks the potential they possess. They also realize that their growth determines the growth of the organizations they lead. They recognize that growing themselves is one of the best ways they can serve those who follow. They reflect deeply on Peter’s challenge to all believers:

¹⁸ But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen (2 Peter 3:18, NIV).

Peter challenges us all to keep growing, the antidote for falling from the “secure position” he mentions in the previous verse. Leaders pay careful attention to their growth and ask themselves often, “How am I growing?”   

Serving leaders ask “How am I growing?“ to check balance.

Peter calls leaders to grow in “grace and knowledge…” Knowledge is an area most leaders are aware of their need for growth. They take classes, attend seminars, listen to podcasts, or read books to expand their knowledge. This is excellent. But Peter calls leaders to balance knowledge with grace. Grace is an internal attribute, a character trait, an issue of the heart. Both the head and heart are needed and should be balanced. When growth happens only in the area of knowledge and there is no corresponding development of character, it leads to arrogance. When a leader grows only in character without growth in knowledge, their hearts may be in the right place, but they still lack leadership competencies that are essential.

 Serving leaders ask themselves if they are growing in both areas. They ask if their character is stronger and their knowledge greater than it was before. Serving leaders recognize that they need both head knowledge and heart capacity to increase. They seek to balance their growth between the knowledge and skills they need to excel professionally, with the heart issues of integrity, honesty, courage, and humility.

Serving leaders ask “How am I growing?“ to confirm direction.

Serving leaders are not only concerned that they are growing, but they also want to know if they are growing in the right direction. Peter provides the direction for growth, “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.” He points to Jesus as the greatest example of serving leadership. While they may benefit from many leadership resources that are not explicitly faith based, serving leaders ask themselves a simple question, “Am I living and leading more like Jesus than I was a year ago?” If the answer is “yes”, the correct direction is confirmed.

Serving leaders ask “How am I growing?“ to credit correctly.  

Leaders grow for many reasons. Some are seeking a promotion or simply want to grow a larger organization. Some want to impress others with their title or degree. But Peter makes it clear that the motive for serving leaders to grow is not to bring glory to themselves but to Jesus. “To him be glory both now and forever!” Serving leaders are passionate about their growth, but like everything about their leadership, it is not about them, it is about others. Their growth develops the potential they received from their creator and thereby brings glory to Him. Their growth simply allows them to serve more effectively and bring greater levels of flourishing to the organizations they lead.    

For further reflection and discussion:

• In what areas do I focus my growth? Is there a healthy balance between my growth in character and knowledge? Do I choose book, seminars and training with this balance in mind?      
• Is my growth leading me to live and lead more like Jesus? If not, what do I need to change? If yes, in what way is this evident to those around me?
• Am I growing to impress others? Am I seeking to make myself look good? Am I seeking promotion or a new title which is selfish in nature?
• What do I need in my current growth journey? Do I need mentors? Books? Seminars? Professional training?

Until next time, yours on the journey,

Jon Byler

In the next issue, we’ll examine a question serving leaders ask others, “How are you growing?”