Issue #433, October 7, 2026
All leaders fail, but not all leaders find ways to make failure fruitful. The fear of failure often keeps leaders from moving forward and the pain of failure keeps them from trying again. Effective leaders turn failures into opportunities to grow by changing their perception of and response to failure.
This series will look at failure through the lens of one of the most public failures of the Bible, David’s sin with Bathsheba, a failure that is still talked about thousands of years later! This well-known story is found in 2 Samuel 11-12 where we learn that David committed adultery with Uriah’s wife, Bathsheba, and then plotted Uriah’s death. We’ll focus not so much on the details of his failure but on Psalm 51, which is his cry for forgiveness and his reflection on his failure. We’ll use the word “FAILS” to learn five principles that helped David respond to his failure in ways that brought fruit from his failure. The first is to Find a new definition of failure. David acknowledged his sinfulness but refused to let that define him.
3 For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.
5 Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me. 6 Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb; you taught me wisdom in that secret place. 7 Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. 13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways, so that sinners will turn back to you (Psalm 51:3, 5-7, 12-13, NIV).
How did David define his failure and what can we learn from him?
Failure is an event, not an identity.
David clearly acknowledged that he had failed. “I know my transgressions…” At the same time, he cried out to God for cleansing in expectation that his sin could be forgiven and his joy restored. He saw his failure as an event, as something which had happened. But the failure was not his identity. His posture was essentially “I failed, but I’m not a failure.”
Some leaders allow failure to define them. They see themselves as failures and dwell on how badly they have done wrong. But serving leaders see failure as an event, not an identity. They can say with David, “Yes, I failed, but I’m not a failure.”
Failure is an opportunity for a new beginning.
David was in the depths of grief and sorrow as he reflected on his sin. Yet, he was able to see a glimpse of the future and declared that after his restoration, “I will teach transgressors your ways, so that sinners will turn back to you.” He refused to see his failure as the end of the road for his influence. By faith, he could see how God would allow him to use his failure to help others.
Some leaders acknowledge their sin and assume that it’s the end of their ability to influence. But serving leaders believe that God will even use their failures to advance His purposes through their lives.
Failure is a universal human experience.
David does not minimize or excuse his sin, but he recognizes that human failure is a universal experience. He sees that he is not the only sinner in the world; there are other “transgressors” who have also failed as he has. He would not allow his failure to distance him from others but would use it to strengthen his connection with others who have also failed.
Some leaders allow their failures to isolate them from others. But serving leaders use their failures to associate more deeply with others.
For further reflection and discussion:
How do I normally see my failures, as an event or an identity? How has this impacted my response to failure?
Are there times that I have failed and allowed that failure to keep me from dreaming of ways that God could use me in the future? What has been the impact of this view on my life and leadership? What would change if I saw the same failure as an opportunity for a new beginning?
When I fail, do I allow the failure to isolate me from others, or do I use it to associate more with others? What difference does this make in my leadership? How do I move towards using my failures to bring me closer to others?
Read again the account of David’s failure in 2 Samuel 11-12, and his psalm of repentance, Psalm 51. What additional insights do you learn about failure from this story?
Until next time, yours on the journey,
Jon Byler
In the next issue, we’ll look at how to accept responsibility for your failures.